Today's headline: Black screen leads to frustrating trivia anecdote

My computer is broken (The screen on my laptop has gone black - inverter problem?). This spells disaster for the Conleys.

A few weeks ago I mentioned to Darren that I like the fact that we're a one-TV-family and that I wanted to try to maintain that status for as long as we could. But being a one-computer-family is another story entirely.

I sure do miss my computer (name pending; I must be slipping!) It's not that I'm stranded; Darren's computer is working just fine. The problem is that he's often working on it. Over the past four months (almost) we've learned to share lots of things, but our computers were not one of them! We've grown accustomed to being able to work or play simultaneously, and that was before we were both in school.

The biggest downside is that I feel out of touch with "my people" - you know, the ones whose blogs I read daily in order to feel like I'm actually a part of their lives. Oh, and I have to actually enter my passwords on his computer. And his computer has sympatico weather bookmarked, not The Weather Network (why I'll never know!). I guess there are a few "biggest downsides."

Speaking of computers saving passwords: yesterday, when it was time to do our daily trivia game Darren didn't notice that the computer had saved my information and it was actually me who was logged in. So, he played under my name and got a good score. Well, I wanted to play, too, so I naturally played as him. For the first time in this category, I beat him, but of course HE got the win! GRRRRR...gotta fix that laptop!

Empty Nest

When I was young I remember my mom saying that she looked forward to the day that all 4 of her daughters left home. She wasn't being spiteful or anything; I think she genuinely longed for a little freedom from the busy-ness of parenting.

Personally I think this cartoon illustrates how I'll deal with the empty nest syndrome, except chances are high I'll never have a dog. But it's hard to say considering I have no children. :)

Anyway, my mom's wish has finally come true. As of Sunday, September 2, 2006, my parents are officially empty nesters. Alicia and I have been gone for years, Alaina moved out west last year and Leona got launched this weekend.

Mom, dad and I helped her move into her residence at the University of Guelph yesterday. Actually, it was second year students who helped her move in; the only thing I carried was her computer monitor and the only thing she carried was, I think, her purse!.

But we did help her unpack and settle in. Dad got her computer up and running, mom made her bed, put away clothes, etc., and I...well, I did a few random things and took pictures. I guess I was there mostly for moral support.

Leona's room is quaint and absolutely adequate for her needs. The girls on her hall seem nice and the building is gorgeous. Here are some pictures from the big move.

It was exhausting! :)

Leona will turn 17 this December, making her the youngest Morris to move out, followed by Alicia who was older, only because her birthday comes earlier in the year. I left home a few months before I turned 19. (There were 5 years of high school back in the 90s.) It sounds old compared to my sisters, but then again, I helped Darren move out of his parents' house a few months before he turned 30! In his defense I've got to say that he had lived in a number of places prior to that move, but kept coming home.

My parents are off for a little vacation and when they come home I think they'll find the house quieter and life calmer than when they had a houseful of girls. I wonder if it's time for some new hobbies? Or maybe a boarder? Who knows!?

Learning for oneself

I'm a fixer. I like to fix things...no, not things. I couldn't fix a single thing around this apartment if I tried! Our currently broken toilet is a testimony to that.

I like to fix people. More accurately, I want tofix situations in such a way as to help people avoid having to learn lessons that I've already learned...the hard way.

I realize that most people don't want to be given unsolicited advice, so the culturally acceptable thing to do is sit back and watch people learn for themselves. Also, I know that a person learns best through experience. (I really do agree with Confuscius' "I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.") But it's really hard.

On the other hand, when I think back on my life I can think of a few distinct instances in which I wish someone had told me I was making a bad decision. (For example, the decision to attend Bible College. Why didn't someone tell me that was a dead end choice?) There's no guarantee I would have changed my mind, but I'd like to think that I would have at least considered the decision a little more carefully.

I'm not speaking of a particular instance in which someone in my life is walking into a situation that could be better by a wave of my magical advice wand, but rather a general sense within me. Whenever I see someone in a place I have experienced and conquered (or at least survived and learned from), I want to transport him/her to the other side where I am.

I wonder if this is what being an adult is.

A week of firsts

These past few days have been filled with a bunch of firsts. Let me run dow the list:

• I received my first mid-term phone call last week in which the coordinator said to me "What are you doing next week? Nothing, good. Wanna make some money? Yes, good!" What he meant was that there was an emergency opening that they needed me to fill. So I worked for one of my vacation weeks. (Don't feel bad for me; we can use the money!)
  
• Late last week I also, for the first time, burnt banana muffins. I'm very careful when it comes to overbaking things, preferring to leave them a little raw in the inside but this time I failed. Darren doesn't think they were actually burnt, but they were far to dark for my liking. Luckily for him, he got to eat them all!
• Saturday evening Alaina, Darren and I hung out with our friends Brad and Michelle and family (that includes you, Chrissy). While there we had the pleasure of watching, for the first time ever, a 5-year-old (or maybe 6?) sing Johnny Cash. I still have the song in my head! "And it burns, burns, burns...the wing of fire"
  
• The following day Darren and I attended our first Sunday afternoon wedding. It was kind of like a Saturday wedding, but people had to rush there from church. Oh, and it was over earlier because people had to work the next day. But we enjoyed ourselves!
  
• Tuesday's first was that for the first time Darren washed and I dried/put away the dishes. Usually the roles are reversed because I'm a faster washer, but it was nice to play the less signifcant role in the dish washing for a change.
  
• On Wednesday I got my first hair critique from a student. He said, "I think you should go to the salon and ask for a new hairstyle." To be honest, I've been thinking of getting a hair cut before the fall term starts, but I've never had a student be so blunt with me before.
• When I got home I found a letter from "CANADA" and discovered that for the first time I'm being audited. They asked for some specific documents which I thought I had in a folder in our filing cabinet. But when I looked, these receipts weren't there. After a bit of searching, I found the stuff so I can prove that I am, indeed, honest.
  
• I had my first technology-related freak out on Thursday. Darren showed me some photos of a transformer from the upcoming movie and it scared me nearly to death, or at least to shouting. You see, I have a fear which I can't exactly put my finger on but it includes things like swarms of black birds and piles of scrap metal. This transformer was disgusting! (To see these pictures you'll have to go to themovieblog.com because I refuse to post such trauma.)
  
• I have never been so happy to see a group of students graduate as I was this week. This first is the first ESL graduation-induced sense of relief.
  
• For the first time Friday afternoon I put on an episode of Crusade without my husband prompting me to. I don't know what has come over me...honestly.
• Last night Darren and I went to see Little Miss Sunshine and for the first time since I can remember, I laughed and cried in the same movie. And I'm not talking about a little smirky laugh, but a real, belly-holdin' guffaw. It was a funny movie!
• And finally, this morning I am cooking eggs, bacon and toast with the intention of eating them separately, perhaps for the first time in my entire life. My favourite breakfast is an egg, cheese, and bacon sandwich, but I think I'll change it up a little today.
  

That's it for my list of firsts, which doubles as an update on the Conley household. Oh! Except that at this moment Darren is downstairs doing the laundry by himself for the first time since we've been married. What a man!

Mental absense

We haven't been home much this week. That's not to say that Darren and I haven't spent a lot of time at our apartment, for we have. But in terms of mental whereabouts, we've been elsewhere. 3 places, to be specific:

1. Henderson Hospital - My aunt was recently diagnosed with brain cancer - we found out less than a month ago - and went downhill extremely quickly. Her current residence is the hospital and visiting her breaks my heart. It's really hard to think about anything else, knowing that my family is going through such a painful time.
   My father-in-law had been staying one floor down from my aunt since Tuesday, recovering from knee replacement surgery. He's now home and working really hard to do menial, but important, tasks like going to the bathroom.
   
2. A parallel universe - Darren has been doing extensive reading about time travel. This week has been filled with ongoing, in-depth research which will culminate in 4 extremely long posts on his blog. It's been challenging listening him speak so intently about things that I (1) don't really understand and (2) don't believe are possible.
3. Niagara College - The summer semseter ends this coming Friday following a week of exams. The past week has been one of finishing up the classwork and preparing for exams, which takes more focused attention than mid-semester lesson planning. At the same time I'm preparing my challenges to be given advanced standing in the Post Graduate TESL program so I can earn this certificate by doing only 25% of the coursework. I've found out that sometimes it's hard to justify knowlege.

So that's where these Conleys have been for the past week or so. Physically, everything's good here, but I'm mentally and emotionally tired. I can't wait to see what next week brings.

Family Picnic

In an attempt to help promote my friend and his photography and highligh some of the crazy I married into, I bring you the Conley family picnic:

The Lovely Lorraine

Not our frisbee :)

When Darren gets too hot, it must be time for a swim...


...in shark-infested water???

Monkey see...

Monkey do

Frisbee fun

Last week Darren and I decided that we should own a frisbee. So we headed to the mall to run a few errands, the most important of which was buying a frisbee.

I told him to park at the back of the mall because that's where the Dollar store is, to which Darren replied quite forcefully, "We can't buy a dollar store frisbee!" I still don't think there's that much difference between a cheap and an expensive plastic flying disc, but I assumed the role of unknowledgeable one and agreed to look at Sport Check. We were pleased to find a single frisbee, discounted for the end of the season.

I don't know if I had ever thrown a frisbee before last week. It's not that I was afraid or uninterested, but I simply have never had the chance. So when Darren and I immediately took our newly-purchased frisbee to the park behind our apartment to throw it around for a bit and I discovered that I didn't suck at it, I was pleasantly surprised and rightfully proud of myself. After a good half hour of throwing and chasing (I don't suck, but I'm not amazing either) we decided to call it quits for the afternoon.

Like most purchases, this one gives great moments of enjoyment, but they are infrequent. The frisbee has been sitting in our trunk from that afternoon on. To be fair, we did do some frisbee throwing at the Conley family picnic yesterday, but not OUR frisbee. It seemed redundant to go get ours when there were 3 perfectly good frisbees at hand.

Of these 3 frisbees, only one was of similar quality to ours. The other 2 may have cost more than $1, but not necessarily. Anyway, it interested me to discover that the preferred plastic disc was the orange, lighter, cheaper one.

Quite the man

So this morning I am sitting on the couch in the living room reading my friends' blogs -- gotta keep up to date! -- and a strange thing happens. Darren comes and joins me on the couch, book in hand, saying, "I just felt like reading the [etymological] dictionary."

Then he proceeds to tell me vital pieces of information like the words hole and hollow have the same root, the use of eye for hole of a needle is widespread, in Old English the only word for big/great was micel which has completely disappeared, the Middle English word for right (as in right hand) was swither which comes from the word strong and the word meagre is derrived from the word for long.

I'm going to have the smartest kids ever!

Ice cream, anyone?

When it's this hot, the only thing worth eating is ice cream.
Or should I say, someone else's ice cream?

Sitting, blogging, wishing

I hate being busy. I hate that other people are busy. I hate that there has to be lots of coordination in order to arrange a time when busy people can get together.

I'm not really a planner. Almost every time Darren and I are in the car headed somewhere I'll say, "Oh, we should have picked up something to bring along or seen if this person would be available to see us while we're in town or brought this thing along with us. But since I am a last minute person, there's never time to take care of these things.

My inability to plan ahead translates a lot of times into loneliness and boredom. Today, for example, we have absolutely nothing to do. But what are the chances that our friends are sitting around in the same predicament? So we sit here, writing on our blogs and playing Rocket Mania. If only we had thought about this on Monday or Tuesday. Grrr...

There's got to be a solution to the constant feeling I have of I'd really like to hang out with _____, but since I didn't call 4-6 days ago to arrange it, I guess it's watch-a-movie-night here again. Oh, yes, there must be a solution, and when I find it, I'll let you know.

Birthday bamboo

I know this story is a week or so old, but I thought it was worth telling.

When I got home from work on Darren's birthday, he was already here, relaxing in the heat watching TV. He said to me,

"Hey honey, look what I got at work today!" motioning to a bamboo plant wrapped in celophane with a birthday balloon attached that had been delivered to him.
"Oh, that's so nice," I replied. "Who's it from?"
"The people at work, I guess."
"You guess? Didn't you read the card?"
"There's a card?"
-Darren opens card and discovers that it's from ME!-
sheepishly "Oh, thanks, baby."

I don't really remember whether I rolled my eyes or growled under-my-breath at that point. But now Darren knows that whenever things get delivered to him his first thought should be Is this from my wife?

Little sales pitch

Anyone you know shopping for a vechicle? My aunt and uncle are looking to sell their 2004 Honda Element.

Unfortunately, we're in vehicle selling -not purchasing- mode right now, but I think this "baby Hummer" is worth a look!

It's got 4 wheel drive, tons of storage space (especially when the seats are folded down or removed), low mileage (40 000 km, I think), good reviews and like any good Honda, will hold its value. Oh, and people say it's fun to drive.

Personally, my favourite part is the suicide doors, although I don't like the name so much, that open much like French doors to allow lots of room for loading stuff or people into the back. And the fact that it's so darn cute!

I have absolutely no information on the asking price, but I can hook you up with the right people.

So that's my little sales pitch. Any takers?

Tourist scamming

I've always thought that tourist areas, where prices are inflated simply because they can be, should make accomodation for locals.

What I mean is that there should be 2 prices at a restaurant: the regular price, and the ridiculously-increased-tourist price. In Native status card-fashion, residents of the area should be given some type of identification that gives them the rip-off-less version of whatever goods or services they're purchasing.

In some countries, there is a system of duel-pricing. (For example, some guy posted about this topic related to Russia and said that major attractions like museums have a Russian price and a Foreigner price.) However, advertising two prices is admitting that tourists are being taken advantage of.

I know that when you're traveling you should go off the beaten path and look for a restaurant or shop that caters to the locals, if you are looking to avoid being ripped off, but what if there aren't any of those?

I was reminded of this when we went to Denny's in Niagara Falls. There's no way that someone should pay $14. for a hamburger; not a tourist, and espeically not a Niagran.

But my faith in the local tourist industry was restored last night. We went to Tony Roma's to celebrate Darren's birthday using his free entre card, and when we got our bill (after fixing an error) our waiter had included a local discount. He had taken about $3.50 off our bill! When he came back he said, "Now it's the price of a normal meal at a normal restaurant." How sweet.

The thing is: I didn't really notice a difference in the menu between this Tony Roma's and the one we usually go to in Stoney Creek, but I guess it was there. Sneaky tourist town!

Happy day

Happy 31st birthday, handsome!

Only two months ago today...

Today is our second mesiversary. That's right, I said MESiversary.

Darren believes that his degree in linguistics gives him the right to make up new words, and I concur. Actually I think any native speaker has the ability (and right) to create new words that can be understood by other native speakers.

Most of these words will never become widespread pheonomena, but I have a sneaky suspicion mesiversay will. Its little sister, semiversary probably won't, though. And diaversary has no hope in the world - there are simply too many of them to be worth noting each.

I have another sneaky suspicion: after we get to our first anniversary, we (and most couples, I presume) will probably stop counting the months, but that gives each newlywed couple eleven solid occasions to use this word. Somebody ought to call Mr. Webster, don’t you think?

Oh, you may be wondering how we celebrated this momentous occasion. Well, this morning I rolled over and said, "Happy second mesaversary, baby." Now I know it doesn't compete with Steve and Rachel's skydiving adventure, but that was their second ANNIversary. See? A couple of letters can have a profound impact on a word’s implied meaning and its associated celebrations.

Heat avoidance

Ok, it's hot! The Weather Network says it's currently only 30 degrees, but it feels like 39. For my American friends, that's 102.2. I'd say that's pretty hot.

For the most part, we haven't minded the fact that our apartment lacks air conditioning but the past couple of days have been a little more challenging to deal with.

Yesterday to beat the heat we decided to spend the afternoon at the beach. So we (Darren, Ashley, Chuck and I) gathered our towels, musty though some of them were, and headed to Port Dalhousie.

I had always thought that Lake Ontario was off limits in terms of swimming, but a few weekends ago we met our friends there after they and their little boys had swum in the lake. Darren noticed a sign that day that said the water was safe, so when we heard the weather forcast for yestarday, we thought this to be the best option. (Now, the very idea of needing a sign to indicate that one won't be harmed by entering a body of water should cause one to think, but we took it as a go-ahead.)

This time, however, the sign had been changed. It now reads that the water is not safe for swimming, due to high bacteria levels. Our reaction involved throwing caution somewhat to the wind and entering to upper-thigh level. It was a fun little outing despite the fact that no one in Port sells frisbees and we couldn't get our heads wet.

Back at our apartment, the sun had moved far enough to the west that I was able to nap with a fan blowing directly on me while the boys fought each other on the Dreamcast. The evening's survival tactic involved going to the movie theatre, sweater in tow. (What irony, eh?)

This morning the temperature in our apartment was perfect! Laying in bed I was wishing the church we're currently attending had an afternoon service so we could enjoy the coolness of the morning at home and avoid the heat of the day in the air conditioned building. But alas, we missed the morning weather as we headed to church just before 10am.

And now the next question: what do we do this afternoon to survive until the temperature drops this evening? The library is closed on Sundays, we've already been the the mall once this weekend (Monster House was better than both Superman and Pirates II, by the way) and most other cool places expect visitors to leave some money behind when they're done there. Perhaps it'll be another sitting by the fan day.

But I know that it's only temporary; the daytime heat doesn't last forever. I got a little teary-eyed this morning with thankfulness when we sang the following lyrics:

Who imagined the sun and gives source to its light
Yet conceals it to bring us the coolness of night

Despite my complaining about the weather and entering into "survival mode," I much prefer the summer to the winter, especially since it's so short. And as long as the evenings allow for sufficient sleep, I'm happy to deal with being a little less energetic while the sun is out.

A job well done

"You never really know how filthy your bathroom is until you've cleaned it." Chinese proverb :)

There are few things in life that make me as happy as a freshly cleaned bathroom. And there are few better reasons to clean a bathroom than that company is coming.

It seems that Darren and I are content to abide in an apartment with a "well-lived-in" feel until someone comes to visit. Perhaps we need the additional motivation to sort that stack of papers we've been collecting on the coffee table and vaccuum that carpet whose colour really hides the dirt well. So thank-you to Chris and Christy, Chris and Kari, and now Ashley who have provided this much-needed incentive for us.

As you probably can guess, my task this morning was to clean the bathroom. I have mixed feelings toward this job. I enjoy the fact that it's quick and you can see the results of your effort. I also love the outcome! But I absolutely despise hair, which puts a damper on things.

I don't hate all hair - that which is attached to the body it's alright - but on the floor, counter, pillow...anywhere... it grosses me right out! I'm a little less disturbed when it's my own hair, but I still don't like it. So I always tackle the bathroom cleaning task with trepidation.

I am pleased to say that I have successfully rid our loo of all renegade hair and it currently is fit for anyone's use. Welcome, Ashley. We're ready for you!

A visit to the zoo

I know, I know...you wish you could go to the zoo but you either

• are working now and can't just drop everything to stare at animals.
• figure Toronto is just too far to travel for monkeys and elephants.
• can't afford the $19. admission charge (that is, if you're an adult - it's cheaper for kids and seniors, of course).
• feel silly going without kids and you're plum out of kids.
• are afraid that those cages aren't as strong as they look.

So, with the help of my favourite photographer, Charlie-san Fournier, I bring the zoo to you. Enjoy!

Learning to drive...again

It's important to rejoice in life's little victories.

When Darren and I got married, we each owned a vehicle. Well, I have a few more payments until I technically own mine, but....

Now, while there are lots of couples who need to have 2 vehicles, we don't. I work in Welland so I have to drive, but Darren is working down the street for the summer so he can certainly walk. Then in the fall when he goes to school, I can either drop him off at the University on my way to work, or he can take the bus. Either way, there's no need to be insuring 2 cars and paying for an extra parking space just because. So we decided to get rid of one.

This was not an easy decision, let me tell you. I'm so afraid that in a year or two, we'll be working in different places and won't be able to carpool or use public transportation (that's my history showing - I've never, ever lived and worked in the same city) and have to buy a second vehicle...after owning one not long before!!! So we're in the process of negotiations with my sister (who incidently is afraid of having another lemon of a car) for a semi-permanent transaction, to ease both our minds.

But even after we decided that we'd become a one-vehicle family, we had to decide which vehicle to keep. For Darren this was a no-brainer: Saturn SL1 vs Honda Civic. But to me it was a little more complicated. I gave some reasons like "The Civic will fetch us at least $10 000 whereas we'll be lucky to get half that for the Saturn even though she's still got lots of life in her. So, shouldn't we run her into the ground?" and "But your car doesn't even have a name! I love my Mikko!" However, the real issue was this: I don't know how to drive standard, so getting rid of the automatic in favour of the manual car was a scary proposition.

I should say I didn't know how to drive standard. Darren has slowly been teaching me for the past 3 months. That means I've spent the last 100 days or so in a state of unease every time I sit down behind the wheel. There have been no major catastrophies, but plenty of tire squeeling, engine stalling, car jerking and a couple instances of emergency-break-still-on-induced sputtering. But more than anything there has been a lot of heart pounding and freaking out whenever new scary situations arose (like a car in front of me slowing down or...heaven forbid...turning left!)

My first solo outing was to Dunnville to get my hair cut and I went out of my way to avoid the stop light in Fonthill. (It's too scary to stop on an incline. I'm SURE I'm going to roll back into the person behind me. Don't they know better than to stop so close to me???) Also, the first time I drove to work, I took the long back route to avoid a left turn onto the highway. But I'm proud to say that I no longer make detours that aren't purely for scenery enjoyment purposes. And I even find it a little bit fun too (but don't tell Darren!) So, I guess we can keep the standard.

Oh, and the Civic did get a name. The next time you're over, I'll introduce you to Trevor.

Canada Day plans

Happy Birthday, Canada.

What do people do on Canada Day? I guess the typical thing to do is to go camping and enjoy the day, sitting around, beer in hand, chatting with friends.

I guess another possibility is to join in the municipal festivities - St. Catharines has an annual Family Street Party.

I have never done either of these things.

Canada Day 2002 and 2003 I spent in Bosnia, 2004 I was in Chile. Prior to that, I clearly remember working on Canada Day 1999 in order to take off a day closer to the weekend. I was at camp for most Canada Days in the mid 90s, and I can't think of where I was or what I did all the other years...but it certainly wasn't doing the typical thing.

Last spring, after running through this list of "lost" Canada Days, I decided that Darren and I would really celebrate it in 2005. Then were invited to a wedding on that very day. Now, I do enjoy a good wedding, but not on the day that I was anticipating celebrating in true Canadian style (whatever that is). I freaked out a little, but we went to the wedding and had a good time (until Darren fell asleep at the table. Sometimes I really am surprised that I stayed with him so long).

Compared to July 1, 2006, the wedding looks great! I spent our nation's birthday this year at a walk-in clinic. But it wasn't a bad day all together. Darren went to work at 10 as usual, but came back 25 minutes later. Apparantly they had decided that they were only going to open for dinner. So, he accompanied me to the clinic and taught me about Martin Luther the entire time. (I think I caught 80% of it). Then Chuck came by in the late afternoon and played video games with my husband while I rested. Then finally I did something typically Canadian on this day - we watched the firewords in Port Dalhousie. There was no way a little strep throat was going to stop me from celebrating Canada Day!

I have no idea what we'll do next year, but I'm over my "have to celebrate like a real Canadian" fettish. I think maybe we should come up with our own tradition for this holiday. We'll see in about 11 and a half months.

Visit to Niagara Falls

Got nothing to do? Why not grab your camera and head to Niagara Falls? You could get some shots like these, taken by the fabulous Chuck, official photographer of Darren and Larissa.